How to confront my mother about being molested?

I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this but as someone who was also molested as a child I know that you can't always get the person to say that they are sorry!!!! You need to deal with this separate from your mother, you need to get counseling having your mother say she's sorry won't help you because for what ever reason she's has her own issues with you. Which means that you wouldn't believe her any way. You need to talk to some one who knows how to deal with ual abuse and someone who can help you deal with your issues with your mother. I've been in and out of therapy for over 40 years dealing with ual abuse issues, medical issues and other issues. So I know what might help you. I was diagnosed with depression when I was nine and I was ually molested when I was nine. It took me a long time to deal with the fact that my parents didn't know how to deal with it. This was back in the 60's when people didn't talk about these things so they didn't report it to the police they just wanted it to go away. So You might have to deal with some of the same issues that I did and to learn to live with it. Also a lot of your issues stem from not knowing who molested you and wondering if that person is still out there that could still hurt you or your children. I knew who molested me and my parents were able to keep him away from me. It helped knowing that he wouldn't be able to hurt me again. You don't have that knowledge and it's something that bothers you on a gut level. You need to find someone who can help you or find a survivors group, they will have others there who have also been molested and you'll be talking with people who have shared similar experiences. Believe me that help a lot and it will help you to move forward before it affects your marriage.